Thursday, January 8, 2009

How to Get Happy, Get Money, Get it All - Overcome This Negative Habit

Depressed about money? Depressed about your health, your circumstances? How does depression help you out of the hole you feel you have dug for yourself? How does depression resolve situations? Here's the answer.

Depression is a dark feeling which keeps you depressed.



What is this thing called depression? It's a feeling. It's a feeling you decided should be part of your repertoire of feelings. You picked it up along the way. You saw someone use it. You decided to put it in as a tool in your life.

It's a decision you made as a very young child. Maybe when you were a baby. When you made that decision you didn't know any better. Isn't it time to reconsider your decision to choose depression?

Ask yourself a question.

How does depression help me?

How does depression solve the circumstances that made me depressed? You quickly see. Depression doesn't give you a solution. Otherwise, circumstances would have already changed or you would know how to deal with them effectively.

Depression contains lot of negative feelings. It makes you mad. It makes you sad. It tells you to beat yourself up. Depression makes you live in regret. All of that is negative. How does that help you?

Negative feelings drag you down. Do negative feelings fix whatever depressed you? Do negative feelings make you happy?

How can you go UP by going down?

Many people like to live in a state of depression They saw people around them living in depression as a baby. They decided depression is the way to live.

Depression is a drag. It drags you in the opposite direction of good. You want to have abundant money, vibrant health, lasting, loving relationships. You want to be happy. You want peace of mind with no stress. That's in the direction of high energy. It's in the direction of up.

Depression is low energy and the direction is down.

In Ancient Greek mythology the mermaids lured the sailors over to the rocks. The sailors sailed over and met their destruction on the rocks.

Old feelings, you put in a long time ago, such as depression are mermaids. They're a bad habit that lures you into depression and crashes you into the rocks.

Be vigilant. See the mermaids of depression The mermaids may be alluring. However, they possess negative feelings which then possess you if you embrace them. See the mermaids of depression luring you over to the rocks. Sail your ship in the opposite direction. Sail away from the rocks and out into the freedom of the open seas. Sail away from the rocks.

Decide to be positive in spite of any circumstance.

That's how to change your circumstances and spin your life upward.

How to be Happy Without Conformism

To be happy without conformism is a utopia in our world.

What does conformism mean? This means to accept something even if you don't like it because you feel that there is no other option available.

So, you accept the dust in your house because you don't have the time to clean it, you accept the noise in the streets because you cannot do anything about all the traffic, and so on. You keep accepting everything that upsets you but that you cannot change.

Things go deeper when you marry the person whom you know is not really ideal for you but who appears to be the best one available. Or when you are disrespected and you accept it or accept circumstances that determine the way you live, without even trying to understand it.

You accept what you dislike and try to be fine on a daily basis although things are far from what you would like them to be.

However, you expect to be happy, despite all the contradictions in your life and all the things that are constantly on your mind and upset you.

If you analyze this thought logically, you will see that this desire is absurd. How can you find happiness by accepting so many things that upset you? How can you ignore everything and simply "be happy" if everything that irritates you is constantly annoying you?

You cannot stop the chaos in this world or prevent daily problems, but you can build your happiness by transforming your psyche, so that you are not irritated by your dislikes and you may at least slightly improve and correct the irritating world you live in.

If you don't know where to start, start writing down your dreams because the wise unconscious that produces them is a doctor and a teacher that will inform and guide you.

You can learn how to discern what is really good and bad even though it doesn't seem to be so, and you can also learn how to eliminate what is harmful in your life by interpreting your dreams.

Thus, your happiness will be based on the transformations you make and not on acceptance.

Prevent Depression and Craziness through the scientific method of Dream Interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by Christina Sponias, a writer who continued Jung's research in the unknown region of the human psychic sphere.

We Can Choose To Be Happy

We all have choices. Our choices sometimes make us happy but other times they make us sad. What we choose to do and how we chose to act affects our immediate life and our long range goals. We can make some changes in our choices and learn to love life again.

When I was growing up, neighbors on either side of my parents were as different as night and day. Our neighbors on the left side had a beautiful, enormous pecan tree that allows produced many pecans. They were older adults without children of their own. For some reason, they did not seem happy. He worked extra hours and they screamed a lot when he was home. It seemed that they never had people over except for a few family members who were acted the same of them and were never smiling, friendly or happy. They used to yell at us for picking up some pecans from under their tree, even though they never gathered them. They were cranky and really didn't want to be friendly.

The neighbors on the right side were always smiling and laughing. There always seemed to be outdoor activities which involved their children and neighborhood children. Family and friends were always visiting their house. They never seemed to mind having extra kids around and always had time to share stories, fun and laughter.

Watching both neighbors and getting to know them as I grew up, helped me to learn how to be happy. I learned what kinds of things made people happy and what kinds of things prevented that happiness from touching others. There are certain things that can be done to find peace and happiness but other things just need to be avoided to continue your happiness.

The first thing that we must do is decide that we want to be happy. Being happy is not a given with life. Everything that we do plays a part in our happiness. When we decide to look at the good things in our life, we are on the way to finding our true happiness. How can a person figure out what the good things that make them happy are? You have to be both alert and aware of your feelings of happiness and make special effort to remember what it was that brought on that happiness.

How to Be Happy at Work

Being content with your job is one of the most important issues you can deal with in your career. No one wants to feel like they're stuck in a job they hate.

Here are 10 tips for making your workplace a happy place:

Stop worrying!


When you're focused on personal issues while at work, it can be difficult to concentrate on your job. If your life is full of stress, it can be tough to come to work happy. Just like you need to leave work at work, you need to leave your personal problems at home - don't let them distract you. You want to be productive at your job and focus on work issues.

Embrace your space.


You're at work for at least 8 hours a day so make your work space as enjoyable as possible. Display pictures that bring a smile to your face. Bring in a lamp to create a more comfortable atmosphere. Think of things that make you happy and incorporate them into your office space decorating.

Make office buddies.


Befriend people who have the same interests as you. Knowing people that have similar backgrounds or lifestyles will help you feel more at home in the workplace. Plus, you always have someone to hang out with at lunch!

Be healthy.


Eating the right foods and drinking lots of water throughout the day do wonders to your energy level. Eating right also helps you have a better attitude about yourself and your surroundings.

Stay organized.


Don't take on more projects than you can handle. When you can't find something or you feel overwhelmed, this leads to dissatisfaction with your job. Say no when necessary. Create a manageable schedule and organized work area.

Move!


If you sit for long periods of time during the day, make sure you move around. Do some light stretches. Roll your wrists and stretch your hands. Remember to rest your eyes every so often if you stare at a computer screen all day.

Accept people.


Don’t let your coworker’s behavior affect how you do your job. Since you can’t change the people you work with, learn how to react to them. If conflicts arise, address them appropriately and move on. Don’t let someone else’s bad attitude put you in a bad mood.



Reward yourself.


Occasionally reward yourself for a job well-done. Just like personal stress can interfere with work, the positive sides of life can affect your working mood, too.

Breathe!


Multiple studies have been done that show how deep breathing exercises are great for your overall health. Make a conscious effort to take deep, long breaths throughout the day. Inhaling deeply can boost your energy, make you feel more alert and enhance your overall productivity at work.

Think happy thoughts.


Focus on the positive things about your job instead of the negative things. Write down 5 things you enjoy or appreciate about your job. They could be simple things like being close to a window or a great coworker. Read over that list whenever you feel frustrated or discouraged with your job. Stressing the positives will make your job more pleasant.

How to Be Happy - 7 Secrets For a Happy Life

We all want to be happy, but something always gets in the way. There is never enough time... or money. Somebody is always failing to do what they are "supposed" to do... or not do. Our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, government, big business, whoever... "They" aren't doing it right. "They" failed us. We are angry, and we have a right to be angry. But is that righteous anger making us happy?

Happiness is not something anyone else can give us... or take away from us. Happiness is what we make of our lives... or don't. Whatever our circumstances, we can create a joyful life... or a miserable life. It is up to us.

7 Secrets for a Happy Life

1. Self-Respect: If I don't love and respect myself, who will? It all starts right here with ME. If I think that I'm a pretty good person, it doesn't much matter what anyone else thinks. And the irony is that once I like myself, most everyone else will like me too. People enjoy being around people who speak well of themselves - not in an arrogant boastful way, but with honest self-appreciation.

2. Forgive Everyone for Everything: Angry and happy don't mix. Flush out the angry, and the happy has a place to put down roots. Until we forgive everyone for everything, we hold on to anger and resentment. Once we forgive, we can become happy. Forgiving is not a gift to someone else - Forgiving is our gift to ourselves - a great gift - the gift of happiness.

3. Be Grateful for All of Life: Each of us has been infinitely blessed - beginning with the gift of life. Whatever may appear to be missing or broken on any particular day, our glass is not half full, it is 99.9% full. More practically, when we feel ungrateful, we become unhappy. When we choose to feel and express our gratitude, the act of feeling and speaking our thanks creates a happiness within us. The more we express our gratitude, the more we have for which to be grateful. Today and every day, take time to celebrate life - whether an hour's meditation in a quiet natural space, or a brief moment's conscious pause to breathe deeply and celebrate gratitude for life.

4. Choose Happiness: Everything in life is a choice. There is never anything we ever "need" to do. Every action and thought is a choice and has consequences - pleasant or unpleasant. Whether you go to work today, change jobs, smile at the bank teller, order fried fish, yell at your kids, complain about life, hold a daily celebration of gratitude for life - they are all choices. Happiness is a choice. Stay alert and make conscious choices for happiness.

5. Begin at the End: You can never reach your destination if you don't have a destination. Decide what accomplishments you want recorded on your tombstone. Take a whole quiet day to consider your life. Be very clear that your happiness does NOT depend on reaching your goal. In fact, it's the reverse. Your happiness depends on accepting whatever life throws at you while you walk the path toward your goal. What is important for your happiness is having a goal, and working toward it.

6. Start Today: Whatever you want in life, start today. Not tomorrow - today. Let it be a small beginning - a tiny beginning. Your happiness depends on starting today - every day.

7. Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair": Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be. Demanding that life meet our expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions. Our only path to happiness lies in being open to receiving whatever life throws at us - with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.

The 18 Characteristics of Happy People

In order to be happy, we should make happiness our ultimate goal. If attitude is truly everything, then being happy is definitely a choice. Although most people would argue against that, I could still declare that being glad and staying glad is my choice. If the truth be told, "If it was that easy everybody will do it.

Everybody will jump straight out of bed and enthusiastically scream, "Good morning, Oh God," instead of what most would scream like, "My God, it is morning." The art of being happy involves dedication, concentration and constant injection of inspiration. Undoubtedly, negative people around the world yielded plenty.

Not only people but there are also lots of things and places that drain our energy that may diminish our happiness. I have been doing some research lately on joyful and cheerful people and listed below in no particular order, the characteristics of happy people.

1.) Happy people have also happy friends.
2.) They know how to stand their ground and speak for themselves when they feel or think they are not treated properly.
3.) They live with integrity; they're honest and sincere with others and with themselves and they live their values.
4.) They often listen to music.
5.) They really are thankful for what they have. They recognize their blessings that come their way and constantly show appreciation and gratitude.
6.) They receive and likewise share lots of love, compassion and affection.
7.) Mostly happy people sleep better.
8.) They eat well and also focus on feeding their body with high quality food.
9.) They're patient with people and things around them.
10.) They're excited-they always have something to look forward to everyday and welcome the new and exciting adventures that life has in store for them.
11.) They simply want the best not just for them but also for people around them.
12.) They have a regular exercise or workout regimen.
13.) They are naturally optimistic--they try to practice the fine art of altering negative circumstance to put a positive twist in them.
14.) They know how to live their passion. They know their purpose on this earth and at this time they know their true calling.
15.) They readily forgive themselves and do not severely beat up on themselves for unavoidable mistakes.
16.) They consistently try to learn new things and are open to fresh and new ideas.
17.) They fully understand the significance of self care and well being and make sure that they constantly work toward strengthening their mental health and fitness.
18.) They understand the power of praying because they are spiritual. They believe that through constant prayer, all things are possible and attainable.

How about you-why don't you take this happy quiz now and find out if you're happy. Try putting a check mark next to the characteristics that describe your personality. Pay attention to the areas you didn't check. Then ask yourself seriously, "Now, what am I going to do about that?" Again the art of being happy takes action, focus and the perception of optimism.

The author of this article [http://twitter.com/AmyTwain]Amy Twain is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website [http://www.innerzine.com]http://www.innerzine.com. You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.

Get Happy, Then Create The Life You Want

Remind yourself of a time when you felt happy. When you felt joy. Remember a time when everything felt good to you. Remember what it felt like when you were free. Was there a time in your life when you felt ecstatic about something?

Most people forget that happiness can be attracted. Happiness can be encouraged. Happiness can show up in an instant. A kind look from a loved one. A memory of a safe time when things were wonderful. A time when your body felt perfect.

What you may not know is how easy it is to go back to those good feelings and step up into happiness more hours of every day.

And happiness is creative, expansive, and attracts more happiness to you. Happiness attracts people, places, friends, love, joy, excitement, good business, good clients, great experiences, great vacations, and more of everything in your life that you most likely enjoy and appreciate.

I had a client once who said "I am reading about how I am supposed to feel happy and I don't know what that is."

I know this client well.

I asked her "how do you feel when you are planting flowers in your front yard?"

She said "At peace, calm, joyful."

So when you are reading stories about happiness and you don't resonate with that word, change the word to a time when you felt connected, at peace, at ease, in the flow of your life. This is your natural state of being. Everyone has within themselves that sense of peace, calm, amazing awe of what they could be.

We just forget. We are trained so early to "have to" and "need to" and "must" do things that we forget that inspiration, creation, creativity and happiness are for the taking.

Commit to feeling good a few times every day. Go there. You won't regret it.

Read more on how to get yourself in a good place and how this sense of peace and happiness can cause amazing business results in Erica M. Nelson's book "Prospect When You Are Happy" available at http://www.EricaMNelson.com and bookstores online everywhere. She wrote the book to inspire people to live the life you have been dreaming about. How to tap the Law of Attraction in practical ways. Erica M Nelson is available to coach business groups by tele-seminar on related topics including the power of mindset and creativity. You may contact Erica Nelson at [mailto:authorEricaNelson@gmail.com]authorEricaNelson@gmail.com

10 Tips to Have a Fantastic Day

Step 1. Today begins yesterday.

What you do today, affects tomorrow, more than anything else. So, having a fantastic day today, began yesterday. Now, there's lots of ways to overcome the misdeeds and forgotten promises of yesterday. You can even take a pill or try running it off. But, eventually - compensation kills us.

Waking up to a fantastic day needs to grow out of yesterday, rather than be compensation for it. So, the rest of these steps in having a fantastic day today, also ensure you "had a fantastic day, yesterday" and yesterday depends on the day before that. So I think you can get the drift here. Do today not what is best for today, but what is great for tomorrow.

It takes around 6 weeks to embed a new habit. Exercises are only temporary measures until habits set in. So, the other 14 steps that follow, are temporary knowledge. Eventually they'll become habits.

Step 2. Sleep. The Sound of Silence.

I've seen people spend half their life in ashrams, running around naked on beaches in Byron Bay, bending over backwards in Yoga, chanting up a storm in a church, eating organic vegies, fighting for human rights. All of which is their attempt to "have a great day"

But most of them couldn't sleep well. And therefore, their day, their job, their love was always a struggle. I want you to hear this really, really, really loud. Nothing is more important to your achievements in life than the ability to do nothing.

The only thing that blocks sleep is your ego. That's not a criticism of the ego; without it we have no money, no relationship, no health, no job. So, please don't think this is ego bashing. Ego is as spiritual as everything else on earth.

But, yes, there's a but, the ego has to die to life. It is not the whole reality of life. If we get so confused between our ego and our spirit that we can't separate them, then stress, worry, sadness, poverty, lack of love will become a screen through which we see our day. So, the ego, at night, and several moments throughout the day as a minimum must rest.

To rest the ego is easy. Maybe that is a new habit, but right here, right here and now I'll show you how to practice that. Ready?

To rest the ego you have to practice trust.

The only reason we live through our ego is to make life safe. We use it to sort of "force" our way through life. We use our ego to "get what we want" and if we don't use it, we end up poor, alone, and naked. Ego collects things, holds them, nurtures them, supports them and discards them when we are finished. Ego is the material world.

The only reason we "want" is because we don't trust that it'll be "given" to us. So, to fall asleep at night you have to "trust" that everything is going to be fantastic. Of course, the ego never thinks things are going to be fantastic unless it is involved. It is the maker, the constructor, the thinker, the carer. So, to fall asleep - I mean good fantastic restful sleep at the deepest level, then you have to stop wanting and trust.

If you stop wanting and trust during the day, you'll end up on the street begging. So, there's a time and a place. To "trust" is to rest. All religions and faiths, and spirituality tries to give their followers trust. They call it faith. That's another great word for sleep quality, faith. Faith comes from the ego, but it is a restful ego that has faith.

So, that's the second step to a fantastic day. Practice "trust" or "faith" in order to separate your ego from your spirit. Remembering that your ego never sleeps, it can only be placated for the night.

Early to bed and early to rise is the sequence that suits the ego.

Ps dreams are of the ego. Dreams in the early night are unfinished ego business of the day. Dreams in the middle of the night are long term unfinished ego business. Dreams in the early morning are ambitions of the ego. And as you know, when you dream allot, you don't feel rested. The ego didn't feel safe.

Step 3. Eat to love, not love to eat.

My chiropractor friend John Demartini claims that 90% of back problems in the morning come from a full belly at night. That's just the beginning of the issue of food, rest and day-life.

What we eat today becomes us tomorrow. So, red meat makes us aggressive. Milk makes us mothering. Pork makes us stupid. Bread makes us dull. Apples make us clean. Mangoes make us fired up. Bananas make us enthusiastic. Salt is not a food. Oil makes us flexible. Alcohol makes us dry. Coffee makes us bitter. Chocolate makes us want for love.

Now if you believe all that, you are as dumb as the rest of the new age world. Each person is different, each body is different and each constitution is different. There is different pork too. Good and bad. So, please lets start respecting that there are no panacea to say what is good and bad. Except.

If your poop is like a brick and sinks in the bowl you got problems and cancer is a close candidate. If your poop hits the sides of the bowl without touching the water, you are totally starving your body of nutrient. If you are fat then there's too much fat in your diet 6-40g per day needed. If you are skinny, the joy of love might be hard to hold.

All this aside, it is equally important to focus on how, when and where you eat as it is on what.

Don't run through the city eating a sandwich - it's ugly, poor health and is disrespectful for your body.

Don't combine more than 5 different foods at one sitting

Don't eat within 4 hours of sleep - dry biscuits are great alternatives.

Don't eat more than the equivalent of a clenched fist (yours) of food in one sitting.

Eat 5 times a day and make sure protein is the essence of that eating.

Avoid things that quench your appetite without providing nourishment.

Eat to your lifestyle. A big breakfast might be great for a brick layer, but an office worker will be sleeping by 11.00am with too much food for breakfast.

A big lunch needs a big rest afterward.

Something bitter, like a pickle or salad before big meals helps digestion.

Step 4. A plan.

Of all the thousands of great ideas about having a fantastic day, this next one is the most commonly used by the most successful people I have consulted to. This includes; movie starts, rock stars, business leaders, reformed drug addicts, politicians, entrepreneurs and artists. Are you ready for it?

To a person, every single successful person I have worked with has a note book of some sort in which they plan tomorrow. Why is this so important?

Well, because people who believe they are worthy of success, and who think they are really worthy of having a fantastic day - everyday day, don't leave that up to chance.

So, for example; they have people they love working around them. They have professional people working for them. They don't work with people they dislike. So, they are always planning tomorrow so that it is filled with fabulous things to do.

In contrast I also consult to allot of people who consider themselves losers. Nearly every single one of them has a vision plan, written down as a result of some seminar they did ten years ago. They have great dreams but a crappy reality. Of course, a few months consumed in a crappy reality is going to cause devastating ego issues and ultimately sabotage the long term.

So, back to those lists. Before you go to your bed, "think this question" - what do I have planned for tomorrow? If the answer is "same old same old" or "got to solve those bloody problems" or "I have to go and work in that crappy job" then know that you are treating yourself like a loser. You do have choice.

1/ First choice is that you can find something fantastic in something terrible. That's a mind game so be careful it's not just trickery. But you can actually go to a job you don't like with a different approach that "yuk" - you can find things to love about it, or funny parts of it. A sense of humour can cure allot of dark thinking.

2/ Second choice is that you can change it. Just know that the building blocks of a great life are great days. Miserable, "oh same old same old" plans for tomorrow make you a "sad sack" and people are going to treat you like you treat yourself. A punching bag for their emotional overload.

3/ The third choice is that you can, in the most extreme situations drop into your spirit and trust that just because the ego doesn't see daylight, doesn't mean there isn't any. You can trust that the challenge has a deeper beauty than what you first see. Now, this is fine, but don't do it everyday - it becomes a habit of excusing all the dirt because there's a deeper meaning. You end up hating yourself.

So step four is always think ahead about tomorrow. Is it going to be a great day? And if not, what can you inject into it to make it great. It's called "Design-A-Day" Design your next day as something to look forward to. If you did that right yesterday then today is great, so you won't be looking to "have a better day tomorrow"

Step 5. Don't look back.

Now, I am writing this article for you. It must sound like I am doing everything I am writing. It must come across like my life is totally paradise. And I am having fantastic days. Well that is only half right.

I've got arthritic fingers from millions of hammers on this keyboard sitting in cold places writing books that no one read. So, I could look back and get really pissed. And there's other things too. So, life is a work in progress. So, in my life I have to keep processing the past in order to allow myself to turn up, and have a fantastic day today. And it's never finished. So, I don't go digging for stuff to process.

The most powerful key to having a great day is never look back and there is only one "honest" way to achieve that. You have to be thankful for the past.

When I say "don't look back" people turn their heads and start focussing on what they want. Their ego gets the reins and off they run thinking "right, Walker told me not to look back so I will look ahead and keep my focus on what is coming next" - but that's not it.

Don't look back means don't have regrets. The past makes us so, if we blindside the past it might be blocked from our thoughts, but it is actually causing the present.

All the unfinished business of yesteryear, is haunting us like a ghost. Buddhist call it Karma, Christians call it "The wrath of God" - and I don't know what Jewish people call it, "vengeance or something" and Moslem's I have even less knowledge. The key is, that everyone acknowledges that what we did affects what we do.

In the laws of nature, the same thing. What they propose is that under the ego, there is no "I" there is just a we. So, what we do to others we do to ourselves. Like a circle of thought, what we put out, comes back. No matter how you word it, the bottom line is that "unfinished business" from the past, corrupts our capacity to have a fantastic day today.

How you really get to "don't look back" is that you say thanks for it. The past is spiritual. No value was ever had giving the ego control over the past. So, we need to "trust" that the past was what was meant to be. The key to achieving that, as already proposed, is to be thankful for it.

Anything in the past that you can't be thankful for runs your life.

Anything in the past that I can't be thankful for, runs my life.

Repeat that 300 times.

And while you are repeating it, flash back to your childhood, or to a past relationship, or to a situation in your past. Think of people, places and things that were important milestones, and check, "am I thankful" - If not, then there's sabotage in your system and the "fantastic day" is being corrupted. Ego is holding.

Getting thankful for the past is spiritual stuff. Because the past has happened, there's nothing you can do to change it. After you go through disbelief, denial and then anger about the past experience, finally there's an honesty. It happened. Then, the only course of action is the deal with it so it doesn't pollute your day.

Sometimes this needs an intervention by someone who can decipher the blessing of that past. Sometimes you can quickly do it for yourself. The acid test is 'do you fear it happening again?" if the answer is yes, it's still stuck in your ego.

To round this off, finish everyday with a thank-you for everything that happened in the day. It's the best prayer at night for kids to sit or kneel and say "thank you for ......" instead of chanting some wish for forgiveness. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Step 6. Have a reason for living bigger than life itself

For many people this sounds a bit fluffy. They like the idea of "being happy" as the most important thing in their day. Me too. However, after a bunch of bungled attempts at that strategy I've come to a better way, one that actually works.

I found that what I get from life makes me happy for a while but what I give in life makes me happy. So, if I feel like what I am doing right now is good for me, I am happy, for a while. But as soon as I stop, then I am needing something else to make me happy. So, I think this running from happy make me - happy make me - is what causes addictions and emotional instability.

Happy make you doesn't work either because you might be a "happy make me person" then, I am valuable for a few minutes while I make you happy, then, well if I don't keep you happy you are either sad, or bored, and what then?

I avoid branding people, but the net result of most devotion to Anthony Robins is an obsession with "make me happy" That idea didn't work for me, my standards are different.

However, I found that by having a sense of purpose in life and as long as I can link whatever I am doing to that purpose, I feel, content. And given than "our purpose" is about giving to others, then it's a great model for a "fantastic day" - link our activities to our purpose.

It gives life a bigger meaning and therefore puts things in a different context. I have met clients who are so emotionally fragile, always looking for compliments, absolutely taking everything personally. It's not because they are bad or messed up, it's because the only motive they can find for life is their own happiness.

I also have clients who work in child care, orphanages in third world countries. These people are also fragile just like the first group, however, the fact that they have selfishly found a way to give to others and therefore find a bigger sense of their life context, they are content, happy because that giving is an awesome energy.

Now we need to be conscious here. The person who goes out in the world seeking approval and self happiness from their day, might just be the perfect partner. They get all day, and give all night. Whereas, the aid worker or the healer might give all day and want to "get" all night.

We must remember that there are two sides to everyone. A public and a private. Whatever a person does in extreme in public, they reverse in private. That's how you can tell those little old ladies with Victorian embroidered collars on their white shirts under their jumper going to church, are total sex maniacs when they get home!

So, back to the topic at hand. One part of us seeks to get happy, the other part of us seeks to give happy. Our ego does both because it feels good either way. The thing about giving happy is that you can turn any disaster into a victory by thinking; "who did I just make happy?" but you can't turn a disaster into a victory by thinking, "I'm not really unhappy"

So, learn to give in order to be more happy. The best way is to measure your life by what you gave rather than what you've got. Ultimately you are going to die so what you've got "isn't really worth anything", eventually.

Step 7. Approach - no - attack the day ahead.

It is a sad confession that I make that I have spent the night with a few people. Yes, ok, so I've been normal. Shoot me for it! Anyways, the thankfulness of that is that I've got to witness quite a number of wake up rituals, and noticed how mine change when I woke up alone or with someone.

The bottom line is that those first few minutes when we come back to consciousness from sleep, are very, very important to our health. As a child I used to stay with my Nanna. I loved it. We would all be still up playing while dear old Nanna was already knitting in bed. She loved knitting in bed and always fell asleep with those dangerous needles and half her nights knitting unravelled on her lap. But, when the cock crowed in the mornings Nanna was already up, out in her garden getting rid of snails from the cabbages, collecting a few eggs for breakfast.

She would have set the table, made the bread, whipped the eggs and probably had a cuppa before the sun came up. Nanna died. She was 94 and she only died because someone in her family stole her money and house and broke her heart. Dear Nanna, she knew how to get up in the morning. Lucky for her that her husband died 50 years prior so there weren't many temptations to do otherwise. And from what I have heard, he was an ass anyway, so that's probably where she got the habit.

Bounce out of bed in the morning. You can do it. Then a little stretch, go make the tea, brighten your heart deliberately and if other sleepy heads are still in the bed, bring them a nice hot cuppa or something.

Step 8. Life is a miracle. See it and smile

Now, this is a bit of unapologetic self promotion and given the self revelation in the last point, I can do it. The laws of nature are important because they let you laugh more. So learning them is important.

You see, some people don't like the news because it's always a surprise to them that the world is like it is. That is because some people think that the way want the world to be, is how it should be. This is mild depression.

Severe depression is absolute shock when the world is what it is. So, if you can read the paper, watch the news and go, "Oh, yeah, that's the laws of nature at work" then what could cause depression, sadness or disappointment? Really think about it. If you know how something works then what could be a disappointment?

If I had a car, which I don't, I would know that if I don't put petrol in it, then it will conk out. If I don't put water in the water thing, then it will dry up and die. So, I know how a car works and the only thing that could be a surprise would be my own incapacity to remember such trivial matters as "put petrol in car"

Then if I also know that too much mind noise causes forgetfulness, too much salad causes ungroundedness, too much alcohol blocks clear thinking, and worry causes us not to turn up, then when I "forget" to put petrol in the car, I know why, and therefore don't get a surprise there either.

The laws of nature are universal. So, if you know a universal law, you know how everything works, even a computer if you choose to apply them. So, health, wealth, love, life, business all works on the same laws. Universal ones. Stars work on those laws too and so do cancer cells. So, you see, wisdom of this nature can be very precious. You can get those laws by buying all my books... sorry.

Step 9. Don't take the Stuff...

When you are talking to another person and they use the word "YOU" duck. Our skills as western communicators are terrible. We prefer to say "you" when we should say "I" and we prefer to say "I" when we should say "you."

Positive words need to be directed at "I" and "you"

Negative words are best not included with the word "you"

When someone you are speaking to, uses the word "you" and a negative word in the same sentence, reject it somehow.

However, don't reject it by saying "You" and a negative word in the same sentence like "you just insulted me" or "you are too judgemental" this is like putting pepper on a cats nose.

It is wise to have a non violent strategy to deal with other people's downloads. For the vast majority of people, they won't sleep tonight if they don't blame you or someone else for their woes. So, in order to rest and get a good night sleep they dump on you.

Some people are good at being dumped on. They seem to be like a sponge for it, or some others it just goes right over their head. I'm a mixture of both, but I try to be the latter as much as possible.

We're all vulnerable to people dumping on us. However, when we put that person on some sort of pedestal, then their dumping gains momentum. They're doing it from a "high place" and it hits harder. So, the more somebody's words hurt, the more you put them on a pedestal.

Putting people on pedestals only comes from wanting to be on one ourselves. If we put others up on pedestals on the outside, then we are already on one within ourselves. So, hypersensitivity is egoism. Self aggrandisement on the inside, self depletion on the outside. Neither is healthy.

There are two important things to avoid in order that you don't start this paper chase of pedestal putting. First, separate your work from you. That's at a spiritual level. You have to know that you are lovable even if you don't work or talk or have any opinions at all. You can just be a vegetable and you are still as lovable as the next bloke, woman, person.

The second thing to avoid is trying to be right.

There is no right. Sometimes if you go left it's right. But right is not always right, sometimes it's the only choice that's left. So, if left is right and right is right, then surely being right is only half the answer. Maybe the if you go left it's right around the corner from being right, or if right is the only choice left, then left is right only if you can't take the right.

Religious people always want to be right. "My way is Gods way" I think in our lifetime we'll see this change.

Church attendances are dropping and the "my way or the highway" recruiting drive is failing. For commercial reasons alone, religions are shifting, except the Catholic one which just added 7 new sins to the list. Religious fanaticism is still the loudest voice on earth. It throws more bombs, abuses human rights more, invades more countries, holds up more scientific research, and injects itself into more homes than any other thing.

However, it is the minority, and in spite of this minority having the loudest voice, it will evolve, eventually. So, avoid being right if you want to evolve and have a fantastic day.

Step 10. If you are going to do something - enjoy it.

I live near a huge park. It's a place for people to go and do their daily exercise. What I love most is to see people doing their training and laughing at the same time. The personal trainers who are really good at their jobs, get their little groups motivated but enjoying themselves, all at the same time. The reason is; if the clients don't enjoy their time, they wont come back.

Then there's the hardy people in the park. Running and puffing and frowning. I doubt they are really doing themselves much good.

I went out with a friend last week and we had a nice meal and a glass of wine. She's a yogini and lives a really strict lifestyle but every now and then she has a wine with her lunch. It's great, she gets tipsy after half a glass. She does this lunch thing every now and then but always on a Friday, because she doesn't teach on the Saturday. Therefore, if she feels a bit off colour after the wine, she doesn't regret it the next day. She can enjoy herself.

Everything we do has a consequence and we need to build that consequence into what we are doing. A bucket of ice cream might look tempting, but, if we are going to really enjoy it, we have to accept the "fat" and the cholesterol as a part of the fun.

That's how monks stop themselves from getting horny. They might see a beautiful woman and think "yum" and start to "enjoy" a forbidden fruit. Or at least the idea of it. So, they think of that person's colon. That's enough to bring you back to reality. They kill the temptation before it kills them.

So, when we do what we do, and we have a complete understanding of the consequence, and the consequence is fine, then, we can let go.

Grinding through work, grinding through music, grinding through the day is no way to cause this to be a fantastic day. And going to do something just because it is good for you, is not enough. It must be good for you AND it must be enjoyable. Otherwise, it's killing you. http://www.chriswalker.com.au Chris Walker is a world leading change agent, an environmentalist and author of more than 20 books. Born and bred in Australia, he consults to people and organisations throughout the world on improved relationships, health and lifestyle through the application of the Universal laws of Nature. The result he offers is that we stay balanced, share loving relationships, work with passion, enjoy success, and live our personal truth. To learn more about Chris's work and journeys to Nepal, visit http://www.chriswalker.com.au -- http://www.chriswalker.com.au

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A Positive Attitude Changes Everything

Today's Affirmation: I am happy and I share my joy with others.

A positive attitude is an important key to the success of your goals and dreams.

You can overcome any obstacle when you have the right attitude. One simple word for it... happiness!

"Happiness comes from spiritual wealth, not material wealth... Happiness comes from giving, not getting. If we try to bring happiness to others, we cannot stop it from coming to us also. To get joy, we must give it, and to keep joy, we must scatter it." ~John Templeton~

Start every day with a smile and a bright outlook on life.

Don't let anything or anyone discourage you from achieving what you have chosen to accomplish, and don't let fear or anger get in the way. Take on new challenges with the attitude that you gladly can and will do it.

You must be willing to step out of your comfort zone in order to achieve your goals. This can be a scary thing to do. However, if you look at the positive side of every situation and realize that you can overcome fear and anger with a positive attitude... it will be less difficult.

Look fear in the face and fear disappears.

It is not always easy to be happy all of the time, it takes practice.

Start with a smile when you are challenged by something that makes you uncomfortable. Be willing to step out of your comfort zone and TRAIN YOUR BRAIN to think of ways to overcome obstacles in an uplifting, positive light.

Get on your happy feet!

Smile a lot. Bring good fortune and success to you by enjoying happiness every moment of every day.

Let's say you don't get along very well with your boss or a co-worker, or you had an argument with your spouse the night before. Try this today... walk in with a cup of coffee, the newspaper, a soft drink, something you know this person likes. Approach them with a big smile on your face and say, "Good morning, how are you today?"

Put the item you brought in down on their desk or table and walk away.

If that person challenges your happy attitude, remember this...

it is important that you don't hold on to negative feelings;

if you take on life with a positive attitude you will be a much happier and successful person in your life;

and learn to let go.

Start off on a new foot and a new day. Do whatever you need to do to rectify the situation and move forward with a positive attitude.

TRAIN YOUR BRAIN to immediately turn your focus on something positive when something negative begins, or when someone negative tries to beat you down.

In order to reach your full potential and achieve your dreams you will have to do things that you don't want to do, things you fear, make you nervous or challenge you. Take action and look forward with great pleasure on these opportunities that will get you closer to accomplishing your goals.

GO FOR YOUR DREAM... don't let your fear and anger stand in the way of your personal growth.

Get happy! Learn to laugh! Bring good things into your life.

Every day I am challenged to maintain a happy attitude. My husband, my children, my work, the dogs, the daily upkeep of my home, etc., all challenge me in different ways to maintain a positive attitude throughout the day.

I learn to ignore situations that are negative. I choose to live with a positive attitude... achieving my goal to maintain happiness at all times.

I refuse to be unhappy!

Negative things, people, whatever unpleasant situation may arise... I practice bringing great things into my life by maintaining a happy attitude and dealing with every day situations positively.

I let the most unimportant things roll off my shoulders.

Life is too short to waste such precious and wonderful moments of the day being miserable.

You can achieve anything you want when you have the right attitude every day of your life! Enjoy a happy, positive attitude and bring great success into your life.

A positive attitude... it changes everything.

Here's to your success, and...

To your dream,

Kimberly

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How to Have Good Moods, Good Days

Bad moods happen when you don't like something or someone. You don't like it. That's negative and the negative energy is in you. Your mind goes to work adding up all the reasons why you shouldn't like it. Each new reason is another not liking. Each not liking adds up and the bad mood gets worse, and gloomier, and bluer. Lint collects lint and negative feelings collect more negative feelings.

Complaining is a popular form of not liking. You hurt yourself when you complain. You complain about the smallest thing and you've turned in the direction of negativity, you've turned negative. Your mind goes about collecting all the reasons you should complain about the person or thing, adding more and more negative. You have gone negative. You get in the complaining habit, the complaining mindset. It's a negative habit, a negative mindset. It's a habit that takes you down. Negative takes you down. Positive takes you up.

When you're negative you don't feel right, you don't feel good. Many people have been so negative for so long they don't even know they feel bad. If you asked them, are you happy? They would quickly tell you, oh no, and start listing all the reasons.

Happy is the feeling that all is right with the world. Unhappy is the feeling all is wrong with the world.

Living a life in negativity is living a life in dis-ease.

What don't you like? What do you like to complain about? What's wrong in your life, in the world? All that is negative and that negative is in you. It's making you unhappy, miserable, suffering and sick.

Do you like to complain about some body ache or pain? Most do. It's negative to complain about it. It's also negative to go negative on a negative thing. So, you have a body complaint, big or little. If your body isn't working like it should that's negative. An ache or pain is a pocket of negative energy. You don't like it. You're adding negativity to the negative thing when you don't like it. You have to ask, how does that help me? I know your mind is saying, what am I supposed to do, like it? Yes, you're supposed to like it. Actually it's better to fully love it. Your mind doesn't like that idea. Of course not. Your mind is all about negativity, being negative. You mind does not like the idea of being positive, being loving.

When you don't like the ache or pain, you're negative about some negativity in your body, you're pouring negativity on a negative thing. You are pouring negative fuel on the negative fire. You have to ask yourself, how does that help me? How does that help resolve the body issue? Of course, it does not. It just adds to the pocket of negativity. You're collecting negativity. How's your body problem going to improve that way?

The answer is to stop. The answer is to end the habit of going negative. You can't like, or love your body pain, your psychological pain, whatever pain, if you're negative about it. The first thing to do is make a decision. End the negative. Make a decision. Let go of all those negative feelings. Since it's a habit, it takes diligence and determination. It's a habit you've practiced for a real long time. Your mind will lead you back to the negative, complaining, criticizing, going negative. Your mind will have you doing it before you know it. That's why you have to stay awake to what's going on and stop it. As soon as your mind starts up, stop it. End it. Don't go along with that mind.

It's easy to see it happening. Most of the time the negative will be coming out of your mouth. At first, you'll notice, even though you see those words coming out of your mouth, you'll really want to keep jabbering away with the negative. It will feel comfortable to keep going down the negative road. That's good! You're seeing what you've been doing all your life. You're seeing what's in your subconscious mind blocking your from being the happy, successful, abundant, healthy person that you naturally are hidden behind all that negativity.

It's a decision. Once you see yourself going negative, talking negative, thinking negative, maybe even acting negative, you have a decision to make. I'm going to end this right now because I see it doesn't help me. You've collected negative a long time so it's important not to go negative on all the negativity you start seeing inside yourself. When you see negative, drop it, end it. You'll notice you have collected negative people around you. Of course, lint collects lint. They're showing you what you have inside of you. As you start letting go of the negative and you start getting more and more positive, you'll notice those around you are getting more and more positive too.

Negativity causes you all your troubles and problems. You have a negative outlook, therefore lint is going to collect lint. A negative outlook causes you to see, to experience more negative. Negative collects negative.

The important thing about this information is to know what to do about it. You begin to see, yes, there might be something to this. Yes, I see how maybe I am the cause of my troubles. Yes, I see that I have been negative and the negative has brought me nothing but more negative in my life. You begin to see that. But, what do you do about it?

You need a system, a method for ridding yourself of that accumulated negativity. The Release Technique is a method of letting go of the accumulated negativity in your life. Most of the negativity is subconscious meaning you don't even know it's there. The Release Technique gives you the tools and skills you need to locate and dump all that negative garbage.

Hanging positive signs all over your house, repeating positive affirmations won't work. Keeping positive thoughts, isn't the answer. All that is no more than painting over all that negativity. It's driving your car with the emergency brake on by trying to get positive while holding tightly to the negative. It doesn't work. It doesn't have a lasting affect.

The answer is to get rid of the negativity, get it up and out permanently. The answer is to have at your disposal an instantaneously provable way to do it, to release all that negativity. The way to do it is the Release Technique. If you want to end bad moods, if you want to end bad days, if you want to end feeling bad, then the Release Technique is for you.

Have you had the feeling what you're doing isn't really working for you but you don't know what to do about it? Have you felt bad and didn't know what to do about it? Now you know what to do about it. Make a decision to be happy, to get happy. Make a decision to stop feeling bad. Make a decision to cure your body, your finances, your relationships. Get the Release Technique Abundance Course and start turning your life around. Make a decision. To have something different, you have to do something different.

Call 888 333 7703 and order the Abundance Course right now. Visit the Release Technique website http://www.releasetechnique.com and you can see how thousands and thousands of people have changed their lives. And, you can too. Get started right now by calling and ordering the Abundance Course.

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Being Positive Can Make You Happy

Did you know 99.9% of people that are happy on a regular basis are very positive people? Also, did you know that 99.9% of unhappy people have very negative personalities? It's true, having positive personality traits can make chemicals in the brain that make you happier.Endorphins in the brain react to each positive gesture and turn it into a happy feeling. Yes, your brain knows the difference between positive and negative. It also knows that positive energy needs happy feelings and negative energy needs angry feelings. They go hand and hand. Just like endorphins in the brain make a drug addict happier when they get their fix. It is the same endorphins that react to your positive attitude and give you a natural high. Happy is an emotion that your brain gets addicted to if you are positive all the time. The more you brain gets endorphins to make it happy, the more it will need that feeling. Therefor giving you happy personality traits.

When was the last time you saw a sport star that got happy when he was beat on the field by another player? Probably never.... When he got outdone on the field, you may notice them become angry about it. He may feel like he isn't as good as the other player and that is a negative thought. Now he has talked his brain into believing he isn't as good. This can all happen in a split second subliminal thought. Right away, the endorphins in his brain from being negative made him angry or upset. The player that beat him probably got a happy feeling or started smiling about it. Not because he made a good play, but because his brain received positive endorphins that made him happy. Those positive endorphins will guide him to believe he is better than that other player now. He may not get those endorphins through the rest of his sports career. But like a drug, he will get high off of positive energy long enough to finish the game. Most players have great games when these endorphins kick into the brain. Positive energy is a very powerful weapon.

Being positive as much as you can will actually expand your happy personality traits. Your brain will get addicted to the feeling of happiness because it is always being sent positive endorphins that cause you to be happy. The more positive chemicals that are sent to the brain, the more endorphins are being reached, and the more your brain needs to feel that way. Your brain is capable of being more addicted to happiness than heroin. Natural endorphins can over power any drug. Your brain is a very powerful tool.

That's why if you are negative all the time, your brain will receive endorphins that will make you unhappy or grouchy all the time. You brain gets addicted to whatever endorphins are sent to it on a regular basis. That's why people that are angry and grouchy seem to be like that all the time. They have actually caused their brain to be addicted to feeling grouchy and angry all the time.

There have been studies that show your brain only needs what you give it. If you are always feeding your brain positive thoughts, it will reward you with the feeling of happiness. Your brain will never crave endorphins from negative thoughts if you don't show it how it feels to be negative. If your brain doesn't crave negativity, you are less likely to feel unhappy in situations you should be happy about.

Ever notice how negative or crabby people don't get happy, even when they should be? They are not trying to play it cool. Their brain is just used to being that way. They could win the lottery and seem like they don't get happy. If they do react in happiness, they won't get as happy about winning the lottery if their brain received that positive feeling a little more. It is normal to feel emotions. But when your brain gets an overload of one emotion it can be dangerous. Negative energy can throw all your other emotions off track. Your brain will actually get confused if it is not used to a certain emotion. Just like when people go into shock when they receive terrible news. Their brain wasn't used to it. Their brain got confused because it wasn't used to receiving the endorphins that created that feeling.

Negative personalities are catchy too. Be careful who you hang out with or listen too. It takes 100 positives to overcome one negative thought. So if you listen to a person full of negativity all day, they could bring you to a feeling of negativity until you get back into your groove. Angry people stay angry for a reason. The negativity has got a hold of them and now their brain is addicted to the feeling of negativity and grouchiness.

You know the story the little engine that could. Everyone had a negative energy about getting up the hill. Except the little engine that could. He told him self over and over that he could do it. I think I can, I think I can. Then when he got over the hill he said I thought I could, I thought I could. He actually told his brain he was capable of it and believed he could do it. When he made it up the hill, he rewarded his brain with the positive thought of, I thought I could. His brain got 2 totally different kinds of positive reinforcement endorphins. One set to tell him he was capable of it and another set to congratulate himself upon completing the task. Now his brain will more likely be positive toward the next impossible looking task.

It goes to show you that you can do anything you believe in. Lots of ancient civilizations strived to have mind over body. From martial arts to capitalism. Everyone that was successful though time did it because they believed they could do it. Bill Gates didn't create Microsoft overnight, but he believed himself the whole time in creation. That made it a reachable and achievable task. Positive energy and constant positive endorphins to Bill's brain got him where he is today. Bill taught himself to be very positive no matter what. If you ever met Bill Gates, you'll notice he is a very happy person.

Everyone will be affected by negative energy and be angry or crabby from time to time. That's a very natural human emotion. But it is not normal to be negative with every thought. Teach yourself to overcome obstacles with positive thought. You can make a huge difference in the outcome of your life. Every negative emotion needs to be over come by many positive ones. If you lose your job, your thoughts should not be, what do I do now? They should be, that's okay, I can find another job as easy as I got this one.

Close your eyes, see it, and believe you can. Those are the three keys to being positive on a daily basis. Before you make each decision through the day, take a step back, to see and believe in it. Give your brain the endorphins it needs to accomplish tasks easier. Positive thoughts create happy ones. Positive thoughts create a happy future. A happy future is a successful one. Give it a try.

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Forget Your Troubles and Get Happy

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Beth_Mccain]Beth Mccain

Could it be that easy with the Law of Attraction? When you forget your troubles and just get happy the Universe is going to bring exactly what you are focusing on and that would be happiness, right?

So how do you forget your troubles when life seems to be riddled with them? By focusing on what is good in your life. It doesn't matter what it is, just as long as whatever you think about emits a grateful or happy feeling. Find something everyday to feel good about, even if it is something small, will create feelings that will add up to a huge emission of happiness.

When you have a challenging situation, take a step back and just observe it from a third person standpoint. Don't buy into the frustration or anger as those feelings serve nothing except to generate more frustration and anger. And that can only upset you and raise your blood pressure. Ask yourself what the anger or frustration will accomplish as both will only attract more of the same. Let go of all the negative feelings and just concentrate on the solution, not the problem.

Find a solution that you feel you will be happy with, and even if you are unable to implement it immediately, just revel in the feeling that the problem is solved. The Universe will pick up your hints and start working on the solution. Focusing on the solution in any situation will bring you a solve of some sort through the Universe. The more exact you get with the image of your focus, the more the Universe has to work with and will bring you a solution just as you see it...or better.

The Universe is notorious for bringing something better so don't pigeon hole the Universe by micro managing your result. And don't fret if your problem seems to get worse, sometimes this is how the Universe will bring you an answer.

We had a student who was looking for a better life. She had an abusive husband and a "nowhere job," as she put it. She had been focusing on a better life for herself and her children and one day her husband just up and left her. She called us very calm and said that she knew the Universe was going to give her something better. The next day, her boss laid her off. She called us once again and still, as calm as calm could be, said she knew the Universe was going to give her something better. She rode out the storm by just observing what was happening and keeping her focus on the solution.

Within two weeks she had been asked if she would help design a business graphics package. She had no experience but the owner saw the designs she was capable of and hired her. Her life was much easier without her abusive husband and within 18 months had the life she wanted. This happened because in spite of her life storm, she remained open and vigilant. She knew the Universe would take care of her and give her exactly what she focused on...or better. She got "the better."

So forget your troubles and get happy. Focus on what it is that you want in your life and forget the rest. The Law of Attraction will always bring you what you focus on. Make it good!

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Get happy in one step

Do it by Dropping What Makes You Unhappy - Do it Now
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Lawrence_Crane]Lawrence Crane

Here is the One step to take to get happy: Get happy by ending habits that make you unhappy.

Stop paying attention to what happened across town. Be very wary. When somebody starts out saying, "Did you hear about so and so"? A lot of the time, "Did you hear about...?" is leading to some negative information, something bad that happened. Ask yourself. How does that information help me? How does that information help me be happy? How does that information make me more positive? The answer is always the same. It does not help you. Negative information doesn't help you because it takes you in the opposite direction of positive. The "across town" could mean in another town, it could mean across the country or it could mean somewhere else in the world. How does negative information ever move you in a positive direction? It does not. (By the way, positive direction is in the same direction as money, love, health, success, abundance.)

Stop worrying about things that don't affect you. So, the stock market crashes. So, what? Can you do anything about it? Can you change it? The economy is in a nose dive, but you're doing fine. Unemployment is going up, but you're doing fine. Things seem in a turmoil, but you're doing just fine. OK. Then stop worrying about all the troubles the news is talking about. All that hand wringing doesn't help you, it doesn't solve anything. All it does is add to your storehouse of negativity which blocks your happiness and abundance.

Stop worry and fretting over things that DO affect you. You lost all your money in the stock market. You just got news you're being laid off. You just got news your company is going out of business. How does it help you to freak out? How does it help you to spin out of control and get into a lot of negative emotions? Of course, it does not help you. It not only doesn't help you, it hurts you. It takes you down. Spinning into negative makes it much harder for you to recover from whatever happened. Spinning into negative throws you into confusion and negative feelings. Positive information, such as how to resolve the situation, can't get through all that negative noise. Ask yourself. "Can I be positive in spite of whatever is happening?" Make a decision. Be positive in spite of whatever happens and positive will start coming into your life.

That is how to get happy, that is how to get healthy, that is how to get love and that is how to get positive flowing your way. You never go up by getting down. Drop the things making you unhappy. Drop them and be happy. Have all you would like to have.

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5 Ways to Be Happy Right Now


Happiness Comes From the Inside, 5 Ways to Be Happy Right Now
By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Keith_Callister]Keith Callister

What does it take to be happy?

This is question that many many people find themselves asking, and as we ramble through this journey called life we may need a little help to keep that smile on our face and that spring in our step. More than once I have asked myself what it takes to be happy and in all my searching I have found a few distinct truths that come alive and as simple as they may seem offer an opportunity to be happy with yourself all the time, even when the chips are down.

Here are 5 simple ways to get happy right now, and to stay that way, these aren't pump you up sorts of techniques, but they are real things you can do to change how you feel and make you feel much happier;

1-Do something nice for someone else

This is one of the fastest most effective ways to get happy fast, go out and do something kind for someone else, it can be as simple as giving a compliment or taking someone to lunch, or even stopping your car and helping that person on the side of the road. Service to others helps us remember that there are people everywhere have a need for something that you have got, and feeling needed is important to so many people.

2- Change your posture

This may seem a little ridiculous at first, but this has been one of the best ways for me to go from stress to happiness quickly, sit up straight, take a deep breath in and put a big old goofy smile on your face, you can literally feel the tension that is in your chest melt away, and it is replaced with a sense of well being and dare I say confidence that you can get through anything.

3- Read a good book, or even a few pages of something positive

If you are a religious person, turn to whatever religious text helps you to see things in a good way, two of my favorite passages come from The Bible, one is found in Proverbs 16:20 and reads "...whoso trusteth in the LORD, happy is he." And the other is found in Psalms 46:10 and says "Be still and know that I am God" These 2 short sayings help me know that I have a greater purpose, and that I am meant to be happy, not miserable. If you are not a believer in any religious texts I would suggest finding something that brings you peace of mind.

4- Tell someone that you love them

Now this may fall into the service category, but I think it merits its own section, think of someone you love, someone that you haven't told in a while that you love them. Give them a call, write them a letter, or go visit them and say the words "I Love You." The key point is to say those exact words, don't try and say anything else, just simply "I Love You." It's a little uncomfortable for a lot of people at first, but it will warm your heart immediately and help you feel happy.

5- Remember that happiness is first

This may seem the strange part, but often people will put qualifiers in front of what will make them feel happy, people will say things like, "when I get that promotion, I'll be happy" or "when I find my soul mate, Then I'll be happy" but that is not how it works at all. Happiness starts inside of you and then radiates out to the things that you do, a bold statement I often make to people is, "there is nothing in the world outside of you that can make you happy or sad." All that I mean by that is that you choose each moment of each day how you will respond to your life, and certainly you have the ability to choose happiness of all the negative emotions you often find yourself burdened down with. You have the ability to choose happiness and peace instead of anguish, it's a very simple concept that can seem very difficult, but give it a try, just try to choose happiness.

We are not powerless, we have the ability to master all of our emotions and that includes choosing happiness, you really have nothing to lose and everything to gain, why not give happiness a try?

Keith Callister Self Improvement Coach
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