Thursday, January 8, 2009

How to Get Happy, Get Money, Get it All - Overcome This Negative Habit

Depressed about money? Depressed about your health, your circumstances? How does depression help you out of the hole you feel you have dug for yourself? How does depression resolve situations? Here's the answer.

Depression is a dark feeling which keeps you depressed.

What is this thing called depression? It's a feeling. It's a feeling you decided should be part of your repertoire of feelings. You picked it up along the way. You saw someone use it. You decided to put it in as a tool in your life.

It's a decision you made as a very young child. Maybe when you were a baby. When you made that decision you didn't know any better. Isn't it time to reconsider your decision to choose depression?

Ask yourself a question.

How does depression help me?

How does depression solve the circumstances that made me depressed? You quickly see. Depression doesn't give you a solution. Otherwise, circumstances would have already changed or you would know how to deal with them effectively.

Depression contains lot of negative feelings. It makes you mad. It makes you sad. It tells you to beat yourself up. Depression makes you live in regret. All of that is negative. How does that help you?

Negative feelings drag you down. Do negative feelings fix whatever depressed you? Do negative feelings make you happy?

How can you go UP by going down?

Many people like to live in a state of depression They saw people around them living in depression as a baby. They decided depression is the way to live.

Depression is a drag. It drags you in the opposite direction of good. You want to have abundant money, vibrant health, lasting, loving relationships. You want to be happy. You want peace of mind with no stress. That's in the direction of high energy. It's in the direction of up.

Depression is low energy and the direction is down.

In Ancient Greek mythology the mermaids lured the sailors over to the rocks. The sailors sailed over and met their destruction on the rocks.

Old feelings, you put in a long time ago, such as depression are mermaids. They're a bad habit that lures you into depression and crashes you into the rocks.

Be vigilant. See the mermaids of depression The mermaids may be alluring. However, they possess negative feelings which then possess you if you embrace them. See the mermaids of depression luring you over to the rocks. Sail your ship in the opposite direction. Sail away from the rocks and out into the freedom of the open seas. Sail away from the rocks.

Decide to be positive in spite of any circumstance.

That's how to change your circumstances and spin your life upward.

How to be Happy Without Conformism

To be happy without conformism is a utopia in our world.

What does conformism mean? This means to accept something even if you don't like it because you feel that there is no other option available.

So, you accept the dust in your house because you don't have the time to clean it, you accept the noise in the streets because you cannot do anything about all the traffic, and so on. You keep accepting everything that upsets you but that you cannot change.

Things go deeper when you marry the person whom you know is not really ideal for you but who appears to be the best one available. Or when you are disrespected and you accept it or accept circumstances that determine the way you live, without even trying to understand it.

You accept what you dislike and try to be fine on a daily basis although things are far from what you would like them to be.

However, you expect to be happy, despite all the contradictions in your life and all the things that are constantly on your mind and upset you.

If you analyze this thought logically, you will see that this desire is absurd. How can you find happiness by accepting so many things that upset you? How can you ignore everything and simply "be happy" if everything that irritates you is constantly annoying you?

You cannot stop the chaos in this world or prevent daily problems, but you can build your happiness by transforming your psyche, so that you are not irritated by your dislikes and you may at least slightly improve and correct the irritating world you live in.

If you don't know where to start, start writing down your dreams because the wise unconscious that produces them is a doctor and a teacher that will inform and guide you.

You can learn how to discern what is really good and bad even though it doesn't seem to be so, and you can also learn how to eliminate what is harmful in your life by interpreting your dreams.

Thus, your happiness will be based on the transformations you make and not on acceptance.

Prevent Depression and Craziness through the scientific method of Dream Interpretation discovered by Carl Jung and simplified by Christina Sponias, a writer who continued Jung's research in the unknown region of the human psychic sphere.

We Can Choose To Be Happy

We all have choices. Our choices sometimes make us happy but other times they make us sad. What we choose to do and how we chose to act affects our immediate life and our long range goals. We can make some changes in our choices and learn to love life again.

When I was growing up, neighbors on either side of my parents were as different as night and day. Our neighbors on the left side had a beautiful, enormous pecan tree that allows produced many pecans. They were older adults without children of their own. For some reason, they did not seem happy. He worked extra hours and they screamed a lot when he was home. It seemed that they never had people over except for a few family members who were acted the same of them and were never smiling, friendly or happy. They used to yell at us for picking up some pecans from under their tree, even though they never gathered them. They were cranky and really didn't want to be friendly.

The neighbors on the right side were always smiling and laughing. There always seemed to be outdoor activities which involved their children and neighborhood children. Family and friends were always visiting their house. They never seemed to mind having extra kids around and always had time to share stories, fun and laughter.

Watching both neighbors and getting to know them as I grew up, helped me to learn how to be happy. I learned what kinds of things made people happy and what kinds of things prevented that happiness from touching others. There are certain things that can be done to find peace and happiness but other things just need to be avoided to continue your happiness.

The first thing that we must do is decide that we want to be happy. Being happy is not a given with life. Everything that we do plays a part in our happiness. When we decide to look at the good things in our life, we are on the way to finding our true happiness. How can a person figure out what the good things that make them happy are? You have to be both alert and aware of your feelings of happiness and make special effort to remember what it was that brought on that happiness.

How to Be Happy at Work

Being content with your job is one of the most important issues you can deal with in your career. No one wants to feel like they're stuck in a job they hate.

Here are 10 tips for making your workplace a happy place:

Stop worrying!

When you're focused on personal issues while at work, it can be difficult to concentrate on your job. If your life is full of stress, it can be tough to come to work happy. Just like you need to leave work at work, you need to leave your personal problems at home - don't let them distract you. You want to be productive at your job and focus on work issues.

Embrace your space.

You're at work for at least 8 hours a day so make your work space as enjoyable as possible. Display pictures that bring a smile to your face. Bring in a lamp to create a more comfortable atmosphere. Think of things that make you happy and incorporate them into your office space decorating.

Make office buddies.

Befriend people who have the same interests as you. Knowing people that have similar backgrounds or lifestyles will help you feel more at home in the workplace. Plus, you always have someone to hang out with at lunch!

Be healthy.

Eating the right foods and drinking lots of water throughout the day do wonders to your energy level. Eating right also helps you have a better attitude about yourself and your surroundings.

Stay organized.

Don't take on more projects than you can handle. When you can't find something or you feel overwhelmed, this leads to dissatisfaction with your job. Say no when necessary. Create a manageable schedule and organized work area.


If you sit for long periods of time during the day, make sure you move around. Do some light stretches. Roll your wrists and stretch your hands. Remember to rest your eyes every so often if you stare at a computer screen all day.

Accept people.

Don’t let your coworker’s behavior affect how you do your job. Since you can’t change the people you work with, learn how to react to them. If conflicts arise, address them appropriately and move on. Don’t let someone else’s bad attitude put you in a bad mood.

Reward yourself.

Occasionally reward yourself for a job well-done. Just like personal stress can interfere with work, the positive sides of life can affect your working mood, too.


Multiple studies have been done that show how deep breathing exercises are great for your overall health. Make a conscious effort to take deep, long breaths throughout the day. Inhaling deeply can boost your energy, make you feel more alert and enhance your overall productivity at work.

Think happy thoughts.

Focus on the positive things about your job instead of the negative things. Write down 5 things you enjoy or appreciate about your job. They could be simple things like being close to a window or a great coworker. Read over that list whenever you feel frustrated or discouraged with your job. Stressing the positives will make your job more pleasant.

How to Be Happy - 7 Secrets For a Happy Life

We all want to be happy, but something always gets in the way. There is never enough time... or money. Somebody is always failing to do what they are "supposed" to do... or not do. Our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, government, big business, whoever... "They" aren't doing it right. "They" failed us. We are angry, and we have a right to be angry. But is that righteous anger making us happy?

Happiness is not something anyone else can give us... or take away from us. Happiness is what we make of our lives... or don't. Whatever our circumstances, we can create a joyful life... or a miserable life. It is up to us.

7 Secrets for a Happy Life

1. Self-Respect: If I don't love and respect myself, who will? It all starts right here with ME. If I think that I'm a pretty good person, it doesn't much matter what anyone else thinks. And the irony is that once I like myself, most everyone else will like me too. People enjoy being around people who speak well of themselves - not in an arrogant boastful way, but with honest self-appreciation.

2. Forgive Everyone for Everything: Angry and happy don't mix. Flush out the angry, and the happy has a place to put down roots. Until we forgive everyone for everything, we hold on to anger and resentment. Once we forgive, we can become happy. Forgiving is not a gift to someone else - Forgiving is our gift to ourselves - a great gift - the gift of happiness.

3. Be Grateful for All of Life: Each of us has been infinitely blessed - beginning with the gift of life. Whatever may appear to be missing or broken on any particular day, our glass is not half full, it is 99.9% full. More practically, when we feel ungrateful, we become unhappy. When we choose to feel and express our gratitude, the act of feeling and speaking our thanks creates a happiness within us. The more we express our gratitude, the more we have for which to be grateful. Today and every day, take time to celebrate life - whether an hour's meditation in a quiet natural space, or a brief moment's conscious pause to breathe deeply and celebrate gratitude for life.

4. Choose Happiness: Everything in life is a choice. There is never anything we ever "need" to do. Every action and thought is a choice and has consequences - pleasant or unpleasant. Whether you go to work today, change jobs, smile at the bank teller, order fried fish, yell at your kids, complain about life, hold a daily celebration of gratitude for life - they are all choices. Happiness is a choice. Stay alert and make conscious choices for happiness.

5. Begin at the End: You can never reach your destination if you don't have a destination. Decide what accomplishments you want recorded on your tombstone. Take a whole quiet day to consider your life. Be very clear that your happiness does NOT depend on reaching your goal. In fact, it's the reverse. Your happiness depends on accepting whatever life throws at you while you walk the path toward your goal. What is important for your happiness is having a goal, and working toward it.

6. Start Today: Whatever you want in life, start today. Not tomorrow - today. Let it be a small beginning - a tiny beginning. Your happiness depends on starting today - every day.

7. Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair": Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be. Demanding that life meet our expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions. Our only path to happiness lies in being open to receiving whatever life throws at us - with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.

The 18 Characteristics of Happy People

In order to be happy, we should make happiness our ultimate goal. If attitude is truly everything, then being happy is definitely a choice. Although most people would argue against that, I could still declare that being glad and staying glad is my choice. If the truth be told, "If it was that easy everybody will do it.

Everybody will jump straight out of bed and enthusiastically scream, "Good morning, Oh God," instead of what most would scream like, "My God, it is morning." The art of being happy involves dedication, concentration and constant injection of inspiration. Undoubtedly, negative people around the world yielded plenty.

Not only people but there are also lots of things and places that drain our energy that may diminish our happiness. I have been doing some research lately on joyful and cheerful people and listed below in no particular order, the characteristics of happy people.

1.) Happy people have also happy friends.
2.) They know how to stand their ground and speak for themselves when they feel or think they are not treated properly.
3.) They live with integrity; they're honest and sincere with others and with themselves and they live their values.
4.) They often listen to music.
5.) They really are thankful for what they have. They recognize their blessings that come their way and constantly show appreciation and gratitude.
6.) They receive and likewise share lots of love, compassion and affection.
7.) Mostly happy people sleep better.
8.) They eat well and also focus on feeding their body with high quality food.
9.) They're patient with people and things around them.
10.) They're excited-they always have something to look forward to everyday and welcome the new and exciting adventures that life has in store for them.
11.) They simply want the best not just for them but also for people around them.
12.) They have a regular exercise or workout regimen.
13.) They are naturally optimistic--they try to practice the fine art of altering negative circumstance to put a positive twist in them.
14.) They know how to live their passion. They know their purpose on this earth and at this time they know their true calling.
15.) They readily forgive themselves and do not severely beat up on themselves for unavoidable mistakes.
16.) They consistently try to learn new things and are open to fresh and new ideas.
17.) They fully understand the significance of self care and well being and make sure that they constantly work toward strengthening their mental health and fitness.
18.) They understand the power of praying because they are spiritual. They believe that through constant prayer, all things are possible and attainable.

How about you-why don't you take this happy quiz now and find out if you're happy. Try putting a check mark next to the characteristics that describe your personality. Pay attention to the areas you didn't check. Then ask yourself seriously, "Now, what am I going to do about that?" Again the art of being happy takes action, focus and the perception of optimism.

The author of this article []Amy Twain is a Self Improvement Coach who has been successfully coaching and guiding clients for many years. Amy recently decided to go public and share her knowledge and experience through her website [] You can sign up for her free newsletter and join her coaching program.

Get Happy, Then Create The Life You Want

Remind yourself of a time when you felt happy. When you felt joy. Remember a time when everything felt good to you. Remember what it felt like when you were free. Was there a time in your life when you felt ecstatic about something?

Most people forget that happiness can be attracted. Happiness can be encouraged. Happiness can show up in an instant. A kind look from a loved one. A memory of a safe time when things were wonderful. A time when your body felt perfect.

What you may not know is how easy it is to go back to those good feelings and step up into happiness more hours of every day.

And happiness is creative, expansive, and attracts more happiness to you. Happiness attracts people, places, friends, love, joy, excitement, good business, good clients, great experiences, great vacations, and more of everything in your life that you most likely enjoy and appreciate.

I had a client once who said "I am reading about how I am supposed to feel happy and I don't know what that is."

I know this client well.

I asked her "how do you feel when you are planting flowers in your front yard?"

She said "At peace, calm, joyful."

So when you are reading stories about happiness and you don't resonate with that word, change the word to a time when you felt connected, at peace, at ease, in the flow of your life. This is your natural state of being. Everyone has within themselves that sense of peace, calm, amazing awe of what they could be.

We just forget. We are trained so early to "have to" and "need to" and "must" do things that we forget that inspiration, creation, creativity and happiness are for the taking.

Commit to feeling good a few times every day. Go there. You won't regret it.

Read more on how to get yourself in a good place and how this sense of peace and happiness can cause amazing business results in Erica M. Nelson's book "Prospect When You Are Happy" available at and bookstores online everywhere. She wrote the book to inspire people to live the life you have been dreaming about. How to tap the Law of Attraction in practical ways. Erica M Nelson is available to coach business groups by tele-seminar on related topics including the power of mindset and creativity. You may contact Erica Nelson at []